Bob the Basher

Bob the basher

Bob the basher hits women.

He hits women because his only intelligence lies in his fists, he has no brain based intelligence or emotional intelligence. Whenever he cannot find a solution, pursued his woman, or compromise with her he resorts to his fists. Bob the basher is a coward hidden behind a masculine exterior.

He forgets that we all know that males are generally stronger than women. It’s a fact, there is no need to continue trying to prove it, we know it.

Boss Vee once said there is no way Bob just becomes Bob overnight, once before the first heavy thrashing Bob raised his voice at you in an alarming way, or shook you in a violent manner or merely slapped you and swore he would never do it again. I strongly agree, any violent abusive man, is just that, a violent abusive man. Never think that you will fix him overnight, never believe him when he says it’s the last time.

 Bob the bashers is damaged deep within himself and he needs a lot of help to deal with whatever issues have made him that way. He needs to commit himself to reform and obtain the necessary help.

I know a Bob, he is a qualified medical doctor, you  would never believer that he is a Basher while he goes about his business healing the world in his stainless white coat. You would never know that his favourite pastime is using the mother of his children as a punching bag.

The professional Bob will make you believe that there is something wrong with you, and that it’s your behaviour that earns you these beatings. You will listen and you will believe him.

Most girlfriends and wives to Bob stay with him. They don’t leave because they believe his evil twisted lies that there is something wrong with them. Some never leave because they are embarrassed to tell their friends and family that they are being beaten. Others never leave because they love this animal.

Yes I have labelled Bob an animal, that’s the only way it will make sense. To call him man would be to imply that he knows how to co habit with woman. To call him man would be to insinuate that he is the head of the household and he can lead and defend his family.

Where I come from I believe we haven’t done enough to banish the basher. We haven’t equipped our fellow sisters with the confidence to speak out against Bob, we haven’t empowered them to the extent of to liberating themselves and allowing themselves to walk away from Bob. We haven’t whispered in their ears that “some prices are too high to pay in the name of love”.

I know one woman who fled from her Bob, she was married to him for 10 years, she is dating again, but this time with a gun under her bag. I asked her once if she would ever use it and she said “I will never let another man hit me ever again, if any tries I cant promise what I will or will not do”. True story…

Self defense

Watint umfazi watint imbokodo, you strike a woman you strike a rock.

This me making my small contribution against gender based violence, my small contribution against Bob the Basher.

Thank you Bob the Basher for making me sceptical about men