The Unfriending of the Mr

I recently unfriended the Mr on Facebook.

Why?

Because it was the right thing to do, considering we have had some Facebook squabbles in the past and I am sure there were more to come. Exs who shouldn’t be friends, inappropriate posts on walls, inappropriate comments on photos etc.

Just to give you a glimpse. A long while ago I posted something which I thought to be “sweet”(yes occasionally I do sweet) on his wall and he didn’t respond. I checked my notifications just to see if he had but nothing zilch. So I figured the only logical explanation was that he hadn’t been on Facebook the whole day… Wasn’t I just wrong, I visited his wall and there he was responding to a wall post made after mine by one of his female friends, my least favourite of the lot if I might add. I won’t bore you with the details of what transpired after this realisation but yes it is incidences like this that have ultimately lead to the great unfriending of the Mr.

(Of course I wasn’t going to give a scenario where I was the guilty party)

My thinking was why should this go on. Each one of us owns their respective profile and it’s wrong to have the other dictate what is should or shouldn’t be done on that profile. Besides even if one has access to the wall Lord knows what is taking place in the inbox or on chat.

Because some people truly give themselves so much work….

Checking phone messages, checking whatsapp messages, checking call logs, going through Facebook profile, looking at Facebook friends and their friends….I am getting tired just by typing about it….its all work, so much work, work that usually leads to no good.

I know a number of sisters are giving me disapproving looks and thinking I made a bad decision because it is my job to keep tabs on the Mr. But I just don’t have the energy right now. Sorry ladies.

There is a Shona saying that goes “if you look for a baboon in a mountain you will find it”. So why look in the first place?

If you want to unfriend someone find the instructions here 

Just in case you were wondering the unfriending was done in total peace and love.
 

So he is no longer my friend on Facebook, if I change my mind I will just send him a request…