Happily married???
Happily married the greatest oxymoron of
all times yet this 29 year old man who has been married for 4 years claims this
is absolutely true in his life…. I asked him just after he got married and he
said he was happy, today 4 years and 2 children later he still thinks he is
happy. (we exchanged anonymity for total honesty so his identity will not be revealed)
1.
What do think being happily
married is all about? (Maybe his definition of the phrase is wrong)
Answer: Being happily married is not about getting along all the time, but
about knowing that when push comes to shove, your partner will be there for
you, and that though you may mess up, she will stand by you.
2.
What do you think the two of
you are doing right that a great percentage of the world’s population is
failing to do?
Answer:
I wouldn’t know what other couples do, but for me it’s all about tolerance and
understanding, I know I have messed up more than a couple of times, but the fact is you have to
own up, admit you are wrong and appeal to your partners inner being. (All of us
have one).
3.
What are your most frequent
fights about?
Answer:
Mismanagement of finances, mostly on my part, (I’m terrible at trying to save),
then off course, the so many female friends I have and why they are so close to
me
4.
How do you resolve fights
(those are inevitable, don’t be shy)
Answer:
Someone has to be the bigger man, so if you feel you are not heading anywhere
best bet is to say she is right and voila, its solved. Half the time she will
reconsider and say that she was wrong
Answer:
if I knew what it is about her, I’d be able to free myself from her spell!!!
She is
just IT!!!!, she is my best friend and knows what I want before I say it, she
is a very good listener and believe you me she does not forget.
6.
If you could be change three
things about her what would you change
Answer:
That’s kind of difficult coz I’m married to the perfect women already. I think
if she would change then the marriage would collapse.
She has got
the memory of an elephant though.
7.
Given the magic wand, what
three traits of yours do you think she would wish away?
Answer: 1.
Lack of financial control, 2. the carefree attitude 3. Day a at a time attitude
8.
Have you ever thought of
cheating, thought (bear in mind that we are judged by our actions not our
thoughts, besides she has never once visited my blog so she will never find
out)
Answer:
Thought!!! I’ve actually been caught, shhhhh, don’t judge.
(I cant believe you didn't tell me this, you used to tell me everything, and funny thing is I asked you about your relationship with this girl once upon a time)
9.
Your home is an alcohol free
home (hmmm maybe that’s the missing link) so what do you do on a lazy Saturday.
Go through the whole day morn – eve bearing in mind that this blog has no age
restriction.
Answer:
I wouldn’t know about alcohol free, I’ve been known to take 1 or 2 once in a
while when the mood is right. So for Saturday, typically wake up around 930,
that’s if the Mrs is up to some cuddling, from there, it’s the Mrs’ call what
happens, Saturdays are always reserved for her, if she wants to go anywhere I
oblige, then if we are home early, she normally likes to prepare a very hearty
meal. If there is 1 thing that she likes, it’s to cook for her family.
10.
Say anything you want about in
laws….
Answer :
a very tolerant lot, I can never thank them enough for raising such a lovely
woman. Very understanding too. My father in-law spent some time in Russia so he
is very open minded (Westernised I’d say) so we get along quite well, anything
goes with him.
11.
Say anything you want about
pregnancy….
Answer:
1st one was planned, 2nd one, caught us all by surprise
but we never regretted. But I think I have experienced enough pregnancies to
last me the next 10 or so years J
12.
Many believe that the male
should always be older in a marriage, yet you and your wife are the same age.
Tell me how that is working out for you?
Answer:
i think that school of thought is for those that believes a woman should always
listen to what the husband says, it’s trying to force the women to respect the
man, but for us its different. The difference in opinion actually builds us,
and i have to earn here respect not to impose it on her. I value her views and
she is free to express them as and when she wants. I would say that my life
would not be what it is today if it wasn’t for her.
Last words of advice or
inspiration….
No two
relationships are similar, there is no formula to a happy marriage, make it up
as you go along and best of all, understand what your partner wants and be
accommodative to their needs!!!!!
The below
chat came after the interview, i didnt clear this with him so i might be in trouble.
Him:
so how was the interview?
Me:
it was lovely, was it the truth?
Him:
99.9%
Me:
wow, you love her that much?
Him:
yes, to the extent of quitting Facebook
Me:
saka cheating yakapinda papi? (so where did the cheating come from?) I am not
judging i want to understand how it happens…
Him:
human nature and the naughtiness in all of us
Me:
not because she did something?
Him:
not at all i think 90% of the time it’s never about the other party
Me:
not because she is lacking?
Him:
people will just be making excuses
u
drive miss Polly right?
Me:
yes
Him:
But don’t u ever wonder how it is to drive a big Jaguar?
Me:
lol
Him:
just asking and if you answer that truthfully you will see what i mean
There you have it...people can be happily married and women its not always your fault when he cheats sometimes he just want to drive a bigger better car...
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