When a man loves a woman...

First of all let’s get one thing straight, in every relationship there is the one party who loves and the other who is loved. You can’t tell me that you haven’t noticed that in every relationship the scale is tipped to one side…

Now that we have that cleared let me dig in…

I am no Steve Harvey, I haven’t been married four times, but I watch and I ask and I have come to the conclusion that the ideal situation is one where the man is the party who loves and the women is the one who is loved…

 Why you ask?  Women are capable of growing in love while men are not. Men fall in love and when they fall, they fall deep. Let’s go slowly … John falls in love with Jane, he does all that he can to woe her (because when a man has fallen best believe he will do the work that needs to be done), back to Jane and john, John woes Jane and Jane responds to the wooing and decides to give John a chance. Jane eventually falls for John.

 I know at first glance it seems as if what I have described is standard operating procedure but its not. We have situations where:

·         Jane drops not so subtle hints that she is interested in John and John decides to go for it. Maybe because he is lazy or because Jane is making it all so easy for him or because he feels sorry for Jane.

·         We also have those scenarios where John makes a rational decision to marry a wife and not particularly the woman who “turns his tummy”, yes there are people who make decisions such as these, choosing rationality and practicality over love and romance.

·          Then we have cases of match making

·          And not so serious relationships which result in pregnancies and John doing the honest thing despite his heart not being in it.

All of these scenarios can result in a situation where Jane is the party who loves and John is the loved party. And that I promise you is a recipe for disaster.

To be continued…